Thursday, March 19, 2009

More "Normal" than "Different"

So when I was given the diagnosis of "Down Syndrome," immediately I began to mourn the "normal" life that Bear would never have and how "different" he would be from everyone else all his life. Four months into the journey, I can't help but almost laugh at what a foolish response that was. I look at this baby boy I love so much and think, "How could I? How could I have ever been sad that you are the way you are?" Bear is the most precious, pleasant, and sweet baby I have ever been around (and I've been around a lot of babies). I am so spoiled by his loving nature and how sweet he is.

Not only that, but four months ago I was prepared for this baby who would be sick all the time, would develop incredibly slowly, and would be unresponsive. My advice to parents receiving this diagnosis: don't read the books. I was prepared for the worst because that's all the books can tell you. They can't tell you how when your child first learns to smile it's with his eyes. They can't tell you how sweet it is when your child snuggles up to you and sleeps peacefully on your chest. They can't tell you how much joy your child brings when he laughs at your silly noises and faces. They can't tell you how proud you'll be when your baby lifts his head during tummy time and learns to roll over.

Different? Sure Bear will be different and is already different from other babies. But in a bad way? Absolutely not. If "normal" means fussy and demanding, I'll take my Bear any day.

4 comments:

Grandma Ringger said...

yaahh, Morgan!!! You sound so much better than the last post. Isn't is just amazing how much love we have for our babies??? An accident that your Barrett was chosen for you & your husband?? I don't think so -- Our God knows exactly what he is doing -- it just takes us "humans" a little time to realize it!! THEN we say "Ohhhh, now I see what your plan was!!" I would like to say as we grow older and "wiser" we are more patient and understand -- BUT --- hhmmm, hasn't happened to me yet!!! Maybe, when I get a little older!!
tee hee hee
Friendly advice?? UPDATE more often!! I love to see pics. of your little Bear!!!!!
Love ya,
Shelley

Grandma Ringger said...

Oh, I forgot to tell you ---
He is a beautiful baby!!! His little cheeks look sooooo kissable!! And the top of his head --- ooohhhh, looks sooo soft.
Mmmmm, I can just smell that wonderful "baby smell"!!He just looks like a cuddlier!!
congrats!!

Andrea said...

Very sweet post. And... welcome to the world of "motherly guilt." ha ha
It seems like it's always about SOMETHING that plagues us with - then we just have to calm down and embrace those sweet smiles and wet kisses. Ahhh.

Unknown said...

Hey Shelley...thanks for following my blog, but to be honest, I never meant to have an audience. This is something I started for myself as sorta a self-therapy and reflection which is why I don't update it every day or even frequently. It's just when I have one of those "aha" moments or when something's been working on me for awhile that I post. Otherwise it becomes a diary, and that's not what I was really going for...

How are Gin and Brian doing?